What is White Horse Divorce?
An online home and community for women in various stages of divorce, from separation through the years post-decree.
Why are you building a women's divorce community?
Three reasons:
First, so that no one has to feel alone. Too many of us did (and for way too long) when we were in your shoes.
Second, so that women who cannot afford full-scope legal representation—and those who realize that even if they can it is not a lawyer’s job or priority to know and fix your life beyond the court case—will find meaningful, top-quality, and comprehensive help in the many holes our institutions cannot and do not fill.
Third, because divorce spaces for women tend to be large, public, and sterile –or– local and personal. (Most online divorce spaces are also coed.) We believe women deserve the best of both worlds: a wide reach for the broadest social impact, and a safe, personal atmosphere.
What will your community offer?
Most things you are looking for and many things you might not know you need! We will be offering camaraderie, stories, inspiration, friendship, guidance, and answers… all for women in divorce or separation, no matter their life stage or the stage of the relationship breakdown or legal process.
Specifically, you will find priceless insights, warm conversations, a wealth of knowledge, fun posts, and a community of souls who are in this with you. We may get a little wild with the humor, but we also have tons of practical tips on what you might face and how to come through it stronger and—yes—happier than ever. If you’d like to have us by your side on your journey, request our complimentary newsletter Crushing the PROfile™ to stay on top of the news. We would love for you to be a part of nourishing something truly special for women!
Will participation in the community be free?
There will be a well-thought monthly charge to participate in the community portal on the platform. This video explains why.
Do you only help women?
We do. Divorce is an area where the spousal experience remains fairly gendered. We don’t presume to step into men’s shoes (also, gross) and project how they might process and emerge from it, just as it is indescribably challenging for them to intuit that about us. But we do know women, and the unique and powerful bonds that exist between and among us. We also understand the “pressure to do it all” that is especially, but not exclusively, characteristic of American working mothers.
For a note on our definition of women, please read this.
Do I need to be going through a divorce to fit in here?
Absolutely not! We know there can be a long lead time before the “D word” comes to call, and maybe you will find your way as a couple and it never will. We also know the early days can be some of the most painful, confusing, and isolating. We are growing this community for all women in all stages of marital breakdown or divorce recovery.
That said, we expect many of our members will be entering first-time divorce or separation, with or without children, and bringing more questions than answers. This period of time is commonly characterized by fear, isolation, loneliness, uncertainty, and overwhelm…which can lead to Googling. At White Horse, we aim to transform those feelings into confidence, understanding, accomplishment, positivity, and purpose. Our mission is to provide a unique and intimate environment offering support, guidance, and connectedness from your hardest days through your most inspired.
Put simply, we are about women helping women and women giving back to women. That is why it is important to build a place where members feel so at home, so cared for, that even those who come out the other side will stay, get new ideas for their own adventures, and share their wisdom with those coming up behind. You will find plenty of articles and insights here on travel, adventure, entrepreneurship, and, yes, relationships, to nurture women in all stages with inspiration and joy.
Are you on social media?
Yes! While the in-depth assistance will remain within the walls of this platform, because of the various privacy efforts we implement here, we are also in our infancy on social media. Please know that we are cautious about this because we do not think the major social media outlets are the safest place for divorcing women to spend their time. But if it helps you find us, and introduce us to other women in need, then we need to be there in whatever careful way we can.
Please visit our Facebook page or join our Private Facebook Group—there we will share reactions to posts or books or shared resources, and hold Q&A and Facebook Live sessions (all in due time, if I don’t have an aneurysm). You can also find us on Twitter, Instagram, Reddit, and LinkedIn, although our teen daughters will have to teach us how to use most of those.
Are you my lawyer now?
Sadly not. White Horse is much, much cheaper than your lawyer, and we don’t measure life in 6- or 15-minute increments.
The fine print. Nothing herein constitutes legal or financial advice nor is intended to replace or legally or otherwise complement or augment such advice. The information contained herein comprises general information only—an overview of common issues to consider in preparation for consultation with a licensed divorce attorney and/or tax or other licensed professional in your state. Use of this site does not create an attorney-client relationship with Anne MacIver or any other professional on her team.
Now pretend you never heard us so formal and dry.